There are multiple causes of this psychological disorder. Stella Anna Sonnenbaum<\/a>, a certified sexological bodyworker, told Voice of London: \u201c<\/span>Vaginismus occurs after trauma like rape or abuse, but also after childbirth or medical interventions, or it can be a condition where subconsciously the insertion of a penis is prevented, but also the insertion of a speculum for a smear test may be impossible.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Photo: Courtesy of Cristian Newman via Unsplash<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n The list of potential causes doesn\u2019t start or end with physical traumas. Vaginismus affects both the body and mind, because the involuntary spasms are triggered to protect what the brain considers \u201ca threat\u201d. But why do some women consider what others would judge as normal, an agony? <\/span><\/p>\n Most of the psychological trauma that can ruin a woman\u2019s sex life is generated by the pressure to \u201cdo it\u201d. Early experiences and the lack of comfort in a relationship can transform a female\u2019s intimate life into a minefield. \u201cWomen feel the pressure to have sex as soon as possible. If their friends lost their virginity at a fragile age, they feel like they have to do it the same way,\u201d said Karen Aram<\/a>, a psychosexual therapist, during an interview with VoL.<\/span><\/p>\n Many would think that this disorder, which makes having sex painful, is the result of an insufficient sexual education. But, according to Karen Aram, too much information about \u201cthe first time\u201d can damage the image of an intimate relationship in a female\u2019s perception.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Photo: Courtesy of Rawpixel via Unsplash<\/a>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u201cWhen someone gives you an introduction to what sex implies, nobody is going to tell you that it a pleasurable act or that it is a marvellous way to connect with your partner. On the contrary, you will be told that it is very painful, that you expose yourself to both an unwanted pregnancy and an unpleasant STD,\u201d she affirmed. <\/span><\/p>\n Even though vaginismus isn\u2019t a well-documented condition, it is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions. A recent <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> has revealed that nearly one in 10 British women consider sex a painful experience. The survey, which was conducted by obstetrics and gynaecology journal BJOG, examined the sexual life of 7,000 women.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n E., whose identity will remain anonymous, is one of the females who are struggling to have a normal sexual life. \u201cI can\u2019t quite remember when I realised there is something wrong with me, but I do remember that sex was never explained in a way that suggested it would be physically pleasurable \u2013 not by my mom, not by my friends, not by anyone. All of my relationships ended because I was unable to have sex, therefore I felt disabled, because I couldn\u2019t do the most basic thing in the world,\u201d she told VoL.<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cI felt rejected by everyone around me, every boy looked at me with disgusted eyes when I told them about my problem. All of them treated me like I had a broken body, a body which they didn\u2019t want to see until it was fixed. As the time passed by, my wrecked body became more than just that because I began feeling like a wrecked woman. Vaginismus is really difficult to deal with, especially when all of your friends are talking about their intimate relationships while you are fighting back tears and feeling miserable. All of those feelings just because you have no control over your inability to have sex.\u201d E. further confessed.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Photo: Courtesy of Niklas Hamann via Unsplash<\/a>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Although vaginismus seems incurable, there are a lot of treatments which have a high success rate. Women who suffer from the tightening reflex need to work with both their mind and body in order to heal. <\/span><\/p>\n \u201cWe try to equip women with confidence in themselves and we encourage them to explore their bodies. Vaginismus is much about what kind of relationship we have with our intimate zones. Also, I tell my patients that sex is all about confidence, opening, relaxation, control and permission giving. Most of them think that sex is all about pain, therefore I try to redirect their thinking and explain to them that it actually is a pleasurable act,\u201d said Karen Aram. <\/span><\/p>\n The therapy helps the patient to relax and get rid of both anxiety and negative thoughts. Coaching techniques are also a successful method to overcome vaginismus. \u201cSexological Bodywork is a hands-on coaching technique, and in my experience is really effective in resolving the issue,\u201d Stella Anna Sonnenbaum told <\/span>Voice of London<\/span><\/i>. <\/span><\/p>\n \u201cWe can go at the client\u2019s pace and set boundaries and intentions for each session. Sex-negative beliefs, shame or embarrassment may come up and can be addressed. Unlike psychosexual therapists who send clients home with homework after talk therapy, we can actually physically touch the client with consent, and facilitate pleasure, including inserting gloved fingers into the vagina, and use vibrators to create arousal,\u201d she added. \u201cClient feedback is crucial at all stages, and an initial session may, or may not, include one-way intimate touch.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n I’ve been working on this article for a while now and I’m very excited to be able to share it with you. I’ve interviewed a number of people dealing with vaginismus to try and give a comprehensive look at what it’s like living with the condition<\/p>\n \u2014 Louise MacGregor (@cutpriceguignol) November 22, 2018<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n I was similarly frustrated by the lack of information about vaginismus. So much so that I enrolled for a PhD to research it and set up a website where people could go for information. Don\u2019t get disheartened #MakingADifference<\/a><\/p>\n \u2014 Maria McEvoy (@IrishVaginismus) November 21, 2018<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js<\/a><\/p>\n last night I went to bed so early that I forgot to take my birth control & when I realized this morning, I panicked at the thought that I might get pregnant even though that’s literally impossible thanks to #vaginismus<\/a> \ud83e\udd26\ud83c\udffb\u200d\u2640\ufe0f<\/p>\n \u2014 Carissa Nicole Winn\ud83c\udf14 (@Carissa12Nicole) July 4, 2018<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n![\"\"](\"http:\/\/blog.westminster.ac.uk\/thevoiceoflondon\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/64\/2018\/11\/cristian-newman-141895-unsplash-1-300x200.jpg\")
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